There is one thing known as the Halo Effect, which is to value people by generalizing traits that seem particularly positive or negative to us. There is a popular phrase that explains it: We tend to judge a book by the cover.
In psychology, it is known as cognitive prejudices. It means that you do not think that you know what someone or something is until you see and know that person or thing. This effect explains the greater success in the life and studies of attractive people, and in those that always look to make a good impression on others.
The first perception counts a lot in the long run. If the teacher encounters a number of defects in a student, for example, lazy, sloppy, rude, irresponsible, this will most likely be reflected in grade levels throughout the school year. It is very difficult to remove that first impression from others. Many times we only see the features we want to see. When judging an action, it counts a great deal on the perspective of the one who looks at it. We often get carried away by prejudices.
Our actions towards others, even from the first contact, impact their beliefs towards us and are often the cause of their actions, which often reinforce the influence of the original perception.
Often, the personal opinion of the teacher in evaluating the student is reflected in the evaluation of the student’s school performance. If they see you as an angel, they will treat you like an angel. But if they see you as an imp they will treat you as such, and most likely will not tolerate even small mistakes and faults in your behavior.
As a teacher of many years, I can testify to you that on more than one occasion, at the beginning of my teaching career, I mistakenly prejudiced more than one student; Thinking something like “this student is very lazy, irresponsible, and does not care about school at all.” However, with time and after getting to him well, I came to value him and to appreciate him sincerely.
I also noticed that when the child feels appreciated and feels worth it, their self-confidence grows, and responds by behaving like the worthy person they really are. Surprising more than one of their intelligence and participatory behavior and their willingness to help other students. When this happens, I often ask the class something like “Why do you think people change? And then add, is it because he changed his brain?, to which the students respond: NO! People change because they changed their attitude!
This is a reality that happens to us in each new school year. In fact, teachers teach us techniques to minimize the distortions in our perception, such as statistical adjustment.
Many times we do not value a person correctly until we have tried for some time and we have discovered what his way of thinking and his personality really is. This also happens in our daily lives. Possibly it has happened to you that just by seeing a person you dislike, and you do not tolerate them, and you think that she does not tolerate you either. Have patience, and learn to seek empathy in others and I guarantee you will not regret it.
Always try to make good impressions, especially at the initial moment. Always take care in how you treat your teachers, your colleagues, acquaintances, and your family. If you change positively, you will undoubtedly see that their treatment of you improves and your relationships with them will be more fruitful.
There is great potential in you. Make sure your teachers and peers really appreciate what you are worth, and appreciate you for being that great person you have inside. There is a rough diamond in you, let the world know your qualities and value you for who you are and how you are.